Place of pain

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Prostitution objectifies women and it is a form of slavery. Many women are trapped into prostitution. People argue that many men are hyper sexual;needs more sex.If prostitution does not exist, these men will hunt for women and children and cause havoc to society. This again reinforces the patriarchal phrase "men will be men".  Men can never stop themselves from being violent. Instead, some bodies have to be given to them,to showcase their violence, to prevent them from turning predators. When are we going to ask men to control themselves? ,Who are the scape goats?  . Needless to say, the women we are going to feed these violent men are poor women. Even if Rape can be prevented from prostitution, it is not Justice for women. Rapists does not rape for just sex;rape is about power and control. What is the solution for pedophiles?  Can you say men cannot control sexual urges and so let poor women send their kids for child prostitution.  I hope sensible people cannot agree with this. Then why can't apply the same logic to adult women prostitution. I have never seen anybody advising their sons in controlling sexual desires and proper way to let it out. When are we going to speak with our sons? . Even for child rapes only women are  subtly blamed and advised. Sexist people indirectly ask women to leave work force and care children to protect them. I have seen many videos on good touch,bad touch and methods to protect children from pedophiles. I have never ever seen a single video on how to raise a good boy,what to talk to boys,how to talk with your boy about women. In each and every debate program,after a heart breaking rape case,a social activist or psychiatrist from the panel say these words" men are not taught about these things". If the society is doing a wrong thing, then why can't someone suggest what are we doing wrong. I have red articles on magazines about talking to girls about puberty. I have never seen an article about talking of puberty to boys, explaining boys about bodily changes,about gender sensitive issues.

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