Feminism- Four generation women

People with sexist ideas used to say "what feminism have changed?". Feminism have changed women's lives. The problem is that we have forgot to notice it. Elders in our families have stopped saying everything about their generation. They flatter only about good things about their generation. They don't talk of cruelty and harassment faced by people in their generation. I had an opportunity to hear about the  life of my grand mother and great grand mother. It made me understand how feminism changed lives of women. I feel it is important to each and every women to know about the lives of women of their generation. This helps in understanding the transformation in women's lives. More than reading about women's lives in different centuries, this make us understand feminism ,as the women involved were related to us . My great grand mother was married when she was 6 to a 10 year old boy. She was considered lucky to marry a young boy as many girls of her age were married to older men. She went to her marital home after marriage. She used to cry for her mother and do household chores like grinding,feeding cows,serving food. She gave Birth to her first daughter when she was just 14. Her husband started visiting brothel houses. Her mother-in-laws only advice for her was to give birth to a son. My great grand father was giving his lands to prostitutes as he doesn't have liquid cash. Women did not have property rights at that time. So,if my great grand mother gives birth to a son, property can be transferred to the child's name. My great grand mother gave birth to a son and so cherished him as she thought he was a saviour. She was the only women to have just 4 children at her generation.she was humiliated for her inability to have more children and her purpose of life was questioned. She used to say that many of her friends and cousins who lost their husband have to live life of outcast and isolation. My mother used to say that during their visit to grand mother's house she used to give thamboolam in front of others and 5 rupees without other's knowledge. I remember I asked my mother why great grand mother would do like this.
She replied that the money is her son's money. She felt what my son would think of me if I give his money to daughters. She never had any money but still she was labeled as rich women. My sister remember my great grand mother. She used to say to me that great grand mother would run to room if she sees my grand father(her son-in-law) coming. She used to greet him from standing behind room door.
My grand mother was educated till 10th grade. She had a good life but she was not allowed to work  as working women was considered a man's failure. She said my grandfather refused her to work considering social stigma. People believed working women could never be a good mother.
My mother was educated till her 12th grade. She had elder cousins who completed graduation and could not find suitable partners for marriage.This made my grand mother believe it would be hard to find a groom for graduates.My mother got married and suffered domestic violence. She lost her identity ,self respect and educational dreams were discouraged. She started working only after my father's demise. We lived with dignity only of women's right to work. If my mother might have lived in my great grand mother's generation her head might have been tonsured and might have been expected to live near cattle at back of the house. For any women who don't identity themselves as feminist I am going to ask you only one question. Do you want to live your great grand mother's life? If no is the answer. Welcome to Feminism.