Home away from home

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My mother decided to send us to boarding school so that she can work even till late night. This was ridiculed by my grandmother and many other relatives. People said if you send your kids to hostel they will not know to love people, they will  not respect elders,they will not know to cook and clean and they are girls;if not you can't live with them forever. My mother's first priority was our safety and care. Is that compulsory for school children to learn cookery. Cookery can be learnt even during college days.In hostel,children are expected to do their work by themselves. We have learnt few basic cooking. I believe that was enough for children. People have few negative thoughts of staying away from home. My friend's higher education dream was shattered due to their parent's fear of hostel. "Will she get a good proposal and will people believe her character?"  are few questions popping in people's mind. Women are discouraged from renting house. Problems bachelors face in finding homes are discussed. Women face many more hurdles and stigma in finding rental homes. Divorcees and widows need to answer disgusting questions about their marriage life to their house owners. Single women are asked about their parents,siblings and why they chose staying alone. Hostel has a certain time limit.Women have to  reach by 9:00p.m. This does not suit BPO employees. BPO has night shift and even in IT sector client calls are scheduled at around 10:00p.m. Timings are relaxed in hostels that are situated  around IT localities. Hostels near IT localities are very costly and unaffordable for BPO sector women. My BPO friend used to say me that she feels hungry after night shift but she couldn't have food as hostels don't offer food at late nights. She have to pay for food which she seldom eats. Breakfast and lunch would be ready only by 7.30 a.m.and if she has early morning shift she need to leave by 5 or 6. She need to pay for both hostel food and food in office cafeteria. This makes a hole in her packet and makes her to skip meals. If she might have taken a rented house with other friends she might have eaten 3 times food. Don't judge women for their choice of stay.


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